Top Ten Questions to Ask Your Child Every Day

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  1. How do you think that works? Analyze, discuss, and think creatively about machines, social programs, and systems. This is a great question to deepen any discussion.
  2. How could we make this better? This can apply to your meals, your chores, political systems, or world problems. If you find yourself complaining about something, or if you child is complaining about something, ask this question!
  3. What do you think went wrong? This is wonderful when talking about problems in friendships, with a boss, or in current events. Why did this happen and where did it go wrong?
  4. Do you think we could do that/make that better? Anything that you admire or love deserves this question. Can you improve on the chicken recipe, the handmade bookshelf or the local political campaign? Can you think of a better way to improve airport security or get out the vote? It’s always worth a discussion!
  5. Where did that/they come from? This is a great history question! Figure out the backstory. Where did the car come from, what was Thomas Jefferson’s background, or who thought of creating a carabiner? Follow up your questions with research, of course.
  6. What kind of person is he/she? Deepen discussions about friends, teachers, or local leaders. Talk about what kind of person they are and what traits make them special. Focus on the positives and avoid physical descriptions.
  7. Why do you think he/she might have said that?  Build empathy, understanding, and concern when talking about personal relationships. Try to see both sides. This is particularly helpful with political figures.
  8. How do you feel about that? This is a beautiful way to connect with your children. This question can separate the unimportant stories from the red flags. How does your child feel? This is one of the most important questions we can ask.
  9. Why do you say that? It’s so easy to immediately rebut, discuss, or offer evidence. Kids sometimes test the water with provocative statements. Find out what is behind the statement and if they have strong feelings or evidence for what they have said. They might surprise you!
  10. Does he/she know how wonderful you are? Do you think they are wonderful? Why? This is the bonus question. Help your child avoid toxic relationships and to build confidence in themselves. Everyone is special in different ways. Look for the beauty and find peopl

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